Category: Life’s Important Questions

April 30, 2017

By Steve Litt, LCSW   Thumbs UP Thumbs up, People! One of the oldest and wisest sayings I’ve learned in my career is, “Catch people doing something right, and then acknow-ledge it”. I thought at first this was about changing other people. The idea to me was to encourage the best in children, family friends and employees. I continue to see that this works in all aspects of life. It is a highly effective technique. What I didn’t recognize for years was that this worn out homily also has a profound influence on the one who is catching people doing something right. Once you start looking for what’s right in the world, it begins to change the way you look at the world around you and actually changes your brain. There is growing evidence that these changes can be passed on genetically to you children. Neuroscience has developed rapidly in the past few decades. What we think about how one gets a positive attitude has been enhanced. We have always known that the more you continue to think positively the more easily those thoug

July 7, 2016

Wills and Trusts It is going to happen, so get a will or a trust started now. By Steve Litt, LCSW, Professor Emeritus at DFI Plan now for your and your spouse’s death. If you aren’t married, but are living together as a committed couple, this is even more important. Marrieds have more protections and get more breaks in the law. A will or trust can greatly help unmarrieds. Too many of us ignore financial or estate planning for death. There aren’t enough of us with wills, especially if we are younger. Plan financially for the death of the other. Discuss how to manage finances, where the money is, who to ask for help with taxes, probate, and insurance. Don’t pretend that you will live forever. Ways to start a will There are many internet sources for writing your own will. With a little checking it’s easy to find something that will be a fit. You do get what you pay for, but unless you have complicated estate and trusts there is no need to spend thousands. There are even free sites. Whenever I want to do something I got to Wikihow or YouTube and see if there is anything useful on that site. There are also software packages that work well. I am no