Category: Relationship Tips

December 28, 2016

I hope you are as excited about our new offering of Divorce, Version 4.0 which offers a free upgrade from 3.0 last revised in 1952. While 3.0 was much better than the older version of leaving the folded up clothes outside of the teepee, the required resources to carry on a lifetime of avoiding each other were too burdensome. Still, look how far we’ve come since Version 1.0, first launched by Henry the VIII. Most would agree that those beheadings and trials were costly and brutal.  In announcing his upcoming divorce a great guy I know asked what’s it mean when she said “ I don’t want to be divorced from you. I want to be divorced to you”? Designer Divorce. Increasingly people are finding that divorce doesn’t mean the same thing to everyone. It was so much easier when less people we doing it, say in the1750’s or 1950’s. A divorce meant a lifelong estrangement. We weren’t going to talk, visit, go to the same places to eat, share family holidays and events. Nope, we were divorcing and that was the end of the relationship. Just talk through the lawyers and handle the custody and money issues by mail or notes. Some people are still using that older version of divorce.

September 29, 2016

  By Steve Litt LCSW Gof Thrones couple   Start softly and be gentle. Sounds good doesn’t it? Cue the Barry White music…on 3. Just teasing. I am not talking about sex this time. Sorry. This piece is about how to begin a conversation with someone you love when there is a complaint. First think about what you want to accomplish by bringing up this complaint. It should almost always be that you want something to change, but not at the expense of hurting your partner. Starting softly sets the tone. Try it the next time you have a complaint. A gentle beginning might sound like, “Hey, Babe, is this a good time to talk? If it is, I would love to have a few minutes with you to work on something.” Follow that with, ” I was listening to the radio the other day and some financial guru was saying we all need to put more money in savings. I would like us to talk about that because I like the idea.” That’s so much better than, “You must think money grows on trees”,

May 20, 2015

Power Off (and On) to Empower Your Relationship By Rebecca Moravec, LPC “Technology is the knack of so arranging the world that we do not experience it” Rollo May, The Cry for Myth It is 8:00 p.m. My husband and I are settled in on the couch with the TV on. He is searching e-bay for who knows what on his Mac Book and I am scrolling through instagram on my smart phone. We are connected to so many devices and yet, we are obviously not connected to one another in this moment. This isn’t a new revelation—the idea that technology is causing us to walk around like zombies as we live in a virtual world. We know it…and yet we stay glued to our screens. So what do we do? When is it time to power off? And can we use technology to connect with our partners? Here are some ideas: Power OFF: 1.) Power off at meal times. Sharing a meal together is a great time to catch up on each others day. Put all devices away—sit at a table if you can—and tell each other the highs and lows of the day. It is important for you to know what is going on in your partners every day life! 2.) Power off when you get into bed. You don’t need to scroll through facebook or check your email that one last time. Put your devices away and spend some time cuddling….who knows where it might lead! 3.) Power off while you are watching a movie. Allow yourself to fully engage in a movie (or show) so that you aren’t asking your

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